Was patriarchy a mistake? And can we, as a society, find a better way forward? This clear, bold, and unexpectedly hopeful manifesto is for anyone craving a deep, fundamental change to our lives, relationships, and world order. Using the accessible, point-by-point structure of her New York Times bestseller Ejaculate Responsibly , Blair walks us through her concise, darkly funny reasons why men are the actual second sex. With scientific precision, Blair draws on evolutionary examples of how males function across species: interchangeable, often disposable, and happiest in a "drone" role when their basic needs are met. Dismantling cherished myths about male "strength" and "protection," she makes the radical case that men would thrive in a matriarchal, care-centered world. Because for the vast majority of human history, patriarchy didn't exist--and after men seized power, our species and planet were brought to the brink of collapse in just 10,000 years. Matriarchies center coalition-building, not the extreme hierarchy that characterizes patriarchy. Instead of a total gender role reversal with women on top, Men Come Second invites readers to imagine and begin to build communities organized around children, caregiving, and long-term survival.