Co n t e n t s Acknowledgments 8 Acknowledgments from Rachel Farmer 9 Foreword 11 Chapter 1: July 2009. a time to rest 15 Chapter 2: February 1985: Northern Ireland. a time to dance 23 Chapter 3: July 1987: Bournemouth. a time to love 33 Chapter 4: December 1987: Poole, Dorset. a time to begin 43 Chapter 5: 1990: Dorset. a time to believe 55 Chapter 6: September 1992: Werl, Germany. a time to wait 63 Chapter 7: January 1994: Werl, Germany. a time to embrace 77 Chapter 8: December 1996: Plymouth.

a time to learn 89 Chapter 9: September 2000: Twickenham. a time to be born 101 Chapter 10: September 2001: Twickenham. a time to fight 109 Chapter 11: July 2002: Northern Ireland. a time to grieve 123 Chapter 12: 2004: Northern Ireland. a time to dream 131 Chapter 13: 2006: Dromara, Northern Ireland. a time to treasure 143 Chapter 14: July 2009: Dromara. a time to be still 157 Chapter 15: July 2009. a time to laugh 165 Chapter 16: July 2009.

a time to leave 177 Chapter 17: August 2009. a time to hope 183 Chapter 18: Thursday 13 August 2009. a time to die 189 Chapter 19: 13 August 2009. a time to cry 195 Chapter 20: 18 August 2009. a time to mourn 199 Chapter 21: 18 August 2009. a time to weep 209 Chapter 22: 1 September 2009. a time to honour 219 Chapter 23: October 2009. a time to pray 227 Chapter 24: November 2009.

a time to remember 237 Chapter 25: April 2010. a time to speak up 245 Chapter 26: May 2010. a time to uproot 251 Chapter 27: December 2010. a time to plant 259 Chapter 28: May 2011. a time to start 273 Epilogue: September 2016. a time to reflect 277.