What if the biggest obstacle to happiness isn't your environment, your past, or other people -- but a blindness to some uncomfortable truths about yourself? In the book his fans have been waiting for, one of the internet's most beloved therapists, Kier Gaines, sets the record straight: mantras and toxic positivity won't solve your problems. Instead, Gaines offers a bold new path to getting what you want in life: You need to know yourself better. A lot better than you do now. In It All Starts When You Do , Gaines walks you through the hard but rewarding work you need to do when you simply can't figure out what feels off in your life. Whether your career is stuck in neutral, your family is driving you crazy, or you're struggling to find love, you'll learn how to: Begin healing from the inner wounds you might not even be aware you have Conquer unconscious emotional hijacking Align your actions with your true desires Build self-esteem based on solid evidence and effort, not empty affirmations Stop consuming the empty calories of negative self-talk which can destroy progress Overcome the illusion of comfort that keeps you stuck And much more It All Starts When You Do will arm you with the tools you need to stop sabotaging your life, and get down to the business of living it.