"[A] much anticipated novel . Fans of Garth Greenwell will delight in Koestenbaum's demonstration of the sublime against corporeal obsession, play, need, humiliation, grief, desire, camp, refusal to engage in any heteronormative norms." -- Electric Literature "Perverse and perplexing, this novel is a scream." -- Publisher's Weekly The novel inhabits an insistently queer social universe, largely emptied of heteronormative family structures, where intimacy and authority are rerouted through erotic and spiritual fixation. Grief runs beneath the gleaming prose . A brilliant, demanding novel-as-performance that resists pat simplification." -- Kirkus "Like Ingeborg Bachman's Malina , My Lover, the Rabbi circles and penetrates the outer edges of perception and experience. It's a brilliant book, written with manic zeal and cool strategy.

" --Chris Kraus, author of The Four Spent the Day Together , I Love Dick , and Summer of Hate "My literary version of heaven. Neurotic erotic bliss." -- Melissa Broder, author of Death Valley and Milk Fed " My Lover, The Rabbi is so intimate, so fearless, I couldn't put it down. Poetic and voyeuristic, thick with unflinching detail, I am in awe of this vulnerable, beautiful book." -- Michelle Tea "Wildly funny, proudly filthy, uncompromisingly committed to finding shapes for what really matters in life, this is an exceptional piece of writing. As obsessive as Proust, as entertaining as Almodovar, this deep dive into the strange equivalences of desire and loss is surely going to win Koestenbaum a whole new army of admirers." --Neil Bartlett "Ecstatic, erotic, electric, and utterly captivating. You won't read anything else like it this year, possibly ever.

" -- Andrew McMillan.