As a people committed to peace, Friends have nonetheless, from time to time, sought to build close relationships with perpetrators of violence, with groups and individuals who may be labeled "oppressors" or "terrorists." Why? What part do such relationships play in efforts to end differences and build peace in troubled situations? John Lampen, who has served as a Quaker peace worker in Northern Ireland and elsewhere, draws on his own experiences and the accounts of other peace workers to explore the controversies, risks, rewards, and possible benefits of reaching out in friendship to perpetrators of violence. Discussion questions included.