In this wonderfully readable book, Jean Baker Miller & Irene Stiver argue that relationships are the integral source of psychological health. They offer a new understanding of human development that points a way to change in all our institutions -- work, community, school, & family -- & is sure to transform lives. Miller & Stiver, both legendary therapists, discuss how we form & sustain intimate relationships through crises, frailties, betrayals, deep disagreements & long arid stretches. They provide a useful lens through which to view our atomistic culture & the therapeutic process. They have added chapter & verse documenting the importance of connection for women. Reading this book is almost as special as finding a really great therapist.Ó.