"It wasn't until I realized that I was the real victim and not her that I was able to walk away from the guilt that had been piled up on me by the ton over my lifetime and free myself from future pain and abuse." Growing up with an emotionally abusive and hoarding mother wreaks havoc on the growth and development of a child. See how a person with mental disorders, including hoarding disorder, affects the relationships, finances, and health of the individual and ruins the family dynamic. Lori A. Moore is a multi-published award-winning author who lives in Louisville, KY with her husband and their four-legged furry child.