Richardson is dynamically unembarrassed about sex, as well as learned in healthy ways of using it to open our hearts and enhance awareness. She describes the ascending and descending phases of sexual energy, the spiritual path emphasizes the former, while the biological emphasizes the latter Tantra refers to this step (of re-directing sexual energy through relaxation instead of tension) as placing a foot on the first step of the ladder of growth. Richardson claims that our tendency of "goal orientation","making sex into another item on our already full to do list, results in haste, which "effectively and seriously" represses our sexual energy. She is out to rectify the situation, first by reclaiming our sexuality before we can use tantra to transform it. "We only know how to 'do' in love and not how to 'be' in love.".