At Home with Madame Chic INTRODUCTION What Is Chic? What is chic? Chic is a feeling. It''s a state of mind. It is a way to live and a way to be. We''ve all seen chic people. Nicely dressed, they seem to have a strong understanding of what their true style is. But it''s so much more than their clothing, isn''t it? Chic people have an air of mystery about them. They seem content with something, but what that is . we can''t put our finger on it.
Their chicness appears effortless, as though the graceful way they get through the day comes naturally to them. When looking at these chic people, you might wonder if they have a cluttered living room, or if they scramble to figure out what to have for dinner at six p.m. every evening. You wonder if they detest emptying the dishwasher as much as you do. Heck, look at that manicure. Do these chic people even do the dishes? Well, some of them probably don''t. But what about the rest of us? Being chic has nothing to do with money.
Not all chic people are rich, and not all rich people are chic. You may have observed this with reality television. You might see a wealthy woman with the perfect haircut, dressed in the latest designer clothes. She has a big house, a sports car, and that magic wand, fame. But her negative attitude, insecurities, and bad manners combine to make her, as they say, a hot mess. This type of person does not possess that chic je ne sais quoi. She has a lot of inner work to do. Being chic is not about the size of your bank account.
It has nothing to do with where you live. It has nothing to do with the job you have or the person you''re married to. It has nothing to do with the car you drive or the labels on your clothes. Chic is a state of being. And it is something that anyone can cultivate. Yes, anyone. You can be chic. You can have a beautiful, productive, and passionate life.
You can flow gracefully through your day and look good while doing it. You can find happiness in your life, even if everything isn''t exactly how you pictured it would be. If you are used to a chaotic, unorganized, and so-not-chic life, don''t fret. That doesn''t have to be your reality. In my first book, Lessons from Madame Chic: 20 Stylish Secrets I Learned While Living in Paris, I introduced Madame Chic and her fabulous Parisian family. The secrets of fine living I learned from Famille Chic planted the seeds of inspiration in my life and opened up a whole new world for me. After those blissful, carefree days as a student in Paris, I moved back to America and eventually found myself with my own home and family to look after. I wanted to espouse the elegant way of living I learned in Paris and become my own version of Madame Chic.
But back home in California, everyday life was no longer idyllic; it was messy. What would Madame Chic say if she could see my bedroom, our living room, or the backseat of my car? Without my mentor to guide me, I had to rely on myself to get to the core of what it means to live well when you have a family, a home, and a busy life. And let me tell you, it wasn''t chic. You may think that being chic has nothing to do with the most insignificant and mundane moments of the day. Moments like preparing your meals, emptying the dishwasher, and paying bills. But the secret is: those moments aren''t insignificant. Au contraire. They are very significant.
That''s right--if you can change your attitude about making the pasta sauce, choosing your clothes for the day, folding the laundry, setting the table, or dealing with the incoming mail, you can completely change your life. I''m going to show you how you can derive pleasure from these seemingly mundane tasks, how you can turn all that frustrated and chaotic energy into satisfied, pleasurable energy. After you form an initial organization plan and a routine that becomes second nature, your home will run more smoothly, and you will learn to enjoy and enhance your routine. This peace will follow you wherever you go for the rest of the day, no matter how far you venture from home. Your home is a microcosm of the real world. The more you practice living well at home, the more natural it will feel to carry this practice out into the real world, and the closer you''ll be to becoming your own Madame Chic. If you have a home life that runs smoothly, you too will have that air of effortlessness about you. You''ll spend less negative energy worrying about where you put your keys, or what you''re going to have for dinner, or how on earth you''re going to clean up the mess in the living room.
Your attitude will shift. There will be something about you--something mysterious that other people can''t quite figure out. That je ne sais quoi quality is chic. What Is Je ne Sais Quoi? Je ne sais quoi: that "certain something." This is a phrase we''ve all heard. It describes people who just have "it." But what is "it"? And how can we get it? Is je ne sais quoi being skinny? Is it having perfect highlights in your hair? Can you buy je ne sais quoi? What if I buy this season''s hottest clothes? Does that give me je ne sais quoi? The answer to all of these questions is non. That''s because je ne sais quoi is intangible.
It is not something on the outside; it is something within. In A Return to Love, Marianne Williamson describes charisma as "a sparkle in people that money can''t buy. It''s an invisible energy with visible effects." That charisma she''s talking about is a part of je ne sais quoi. It''s that sparkle--that magnetism--that fuels one''s air of mystery. Here is another secret no one tells you: that je ne sais quoi comes from inner peace. It is having inner peace while you are drying the pots and pans. It is having inner peace while you choose your outfit for the day or while you walk the dog.
It is having inner peace when you are in the midst of a difficult conversation, meeting a deadline in the office, lugging the groceries up the stairs, or even sitting in traffic at five p.m. Chic people have that je ne sais quoi, and that "certain something" is inner peace. Having inner peace should always be our goal. Then we can get through our day no matter what happens around us. Once we have it, small things, such as a careless comment from a coworker or a flat tire, will not completely ruin our day. Inner peace will keep us present and put things into perspective. People will wonder how you manage to navigate through life so gracefully.
They will wonder about that "certain something" about you that they can''t quite put their finger on. Your inner peace will be intriguing and will draw people to you. But how on earth does one cultivate inner peace when the pasta is boiling over, the baby is teething, the toddler is having a tantrum, and the dog just peed on the curtains? Really, you have no other choice but chic. You can wallow in anger and despair, but where does that really get you in the end? Or you can remain calm. You can breathe. You can deal with one thing at a time and not let anything, no matter how loud or pressing, fill you with anxiety. If this seems impossible, let''s examine another phrase often used to describe chic people. What Is Bien dans Sa Peau? Bien dans sa peau translates as "comfortable in her skin.
" People who are bien dans leur peau do not have inner turmoil and constant neuroses ruling their lives. They are not always worrying if they''ve said or done the right thing. They aren''t constantly trying to please people and be everything to everybody. They are comfortable being who they are. They enjoy themselves. They value themselves. This too is inner peace. Instead of opening your closet and going through a neurotic dialogue about how you need to lose fifteen pounds before you look good in any of your clothes, you are bien dans ta peau.
You know you are beautiful right now, so you pick a beautiful outfit and wear it. If you are bien dans ta peau, doing the dishes is not annoying and beneath you. It is important and valuable work. You enjoy the process. If you are bien dans ta peau, your financial life is important, so you pay your bills on time and file away the receipts (and you don''t rack yourself with financial worries during the process). If you are bien dans ta peau, you can remain calm when you have a disagreement with your spouse. If je ne sais quoi is inner peace, then bien dans sa peau is putting inner peace first. Now we can finally define that elusive quality of chic.
But how do you get it? To start you need two things: curiosity and enthusiasm. And then you need to become a connoisseur of your own life. What Is a Connoisseur? The dictionary defines a connoisseur as an "expert judge in matters of taste." One can be a connoisseur of music, for example, or wine. I like to think of myself as a connoisseur of life. I first heard the phrase in a lesser-known Agatha Christie short story collection called The Mysterious Mr. Quin. The main character, Mr.
Satterthwaite, is described as a connoisseur. He cultivates fine taste in everything from his food to his clothing. He is also an ardent observer of others and gets a kick out of determining what makes people tick. This was where I got the inspiration to name my blog The Daily Connoisseur. If one can become an aficionado in all things wine and appreciate and savor the different varieties, for example, why not apply that philosophy to everything we do in a day? Being a Mad.