1 A Real Person Like Myself You Are Raising a Spirit Throbbing with Its Own Signature Parenting Unconsciously Is Where We All Begin To Connect with Your Children, First Connect with Yourself You Can Build a Feeling of Kinship in Your Family How Consciousness Changes How We Parent 2 The Spiritual Reason We Birth Our Children How Can a Child Awaken an Adult? How Conscious Parenting Is Learned A Conscious Parent Doesn''t Emerge Overnight 3 Release Your Children from the Need for Your Approval Acceptance Is Key There''s Nothing Passive About Acceptance Don''t Parent with a Cookie-Cutter Approach You Will Only Accept Your Child to the Degree You Accept Yourself 4 A Blow to Our Ego How Does Ego Function? The Ego of Image The Ego of Perfection The Ego of Status The Ego of Conformity The Ego of Being "In Control" You Can Transition Out of Ego 5 Is Your Child Growing You Up? Face Up to Your Reactivity Discover Your Emotional Inheritance How Can You Integrate Your Pain? How to Handle Your Child''s Pain Take One Step at a Time What It Takes to Tame Your Anxiety 6 Life Is Wise Life Itself Teaches Us Is It Possible to Trust Life? Your Child Doesn''t Need to Earn Your Trust How You Draw Many of Your Circumstances to You You Can Break Free of Your Unconsciousness It''s All in the Interpretation We Give It 7 The Challenge of a Lifetime Infancy and the "Terrible Two''s" The Lessons of Infancy for the Parent A Journey of Self-discovery A Chance to Recover Your Rhythm Toddlerhood: A Planet All Its Own Toddlerhood Is the Time to Sow the Seeds of Containment 8 From Center Stage to Supporting Cast A Parent''s Opportunity for Spiritual Growth in the School Years Middle School: the Challenge of "Being There" for Our Children High School: the Need for Unequivocal Acceptance Why It''s Important to Resist the Temptation to Control 9 The Insanity of Parenthood The Particular Role of the Mother Raising a Child Is an Invitation to Surrender to a Different Pace 10 Parent from Wholeness Instead of Your Wounds If You Grew Up Feeling You Weren''t Good Enough If You Learned to Please Others to Earn Their Approval Were You Unable to Be Yourself? "Bad" Behavior Is Really a Search for Our Inherent Goodness Your Brokenness Doesn''t Reflect Your True Being 11 A Household Built on Being Are You Aware that Anxiety Is a Form of "Doing?" What''s the Source of Our Fear of the Present? Beyond Living by "Doing" The Moment Is Now 12 The Wonder of the Ordinary Do You Revel In Your Child''s Ordinariness? The Fallacy of the Overproduction of Life Surrender the Urgency to "Do" Back to Basics A Life that Mirrors Who Your Child Is 13 Shelve Those Great Expectations Honor Who Your Child Is How to Set the Bar for Your Child What Can You Realistically Expect of Your Child? Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome Use the Right Kind of Praise Realize that Your Children Imitate You 14 Create a Conscious Space in Your Child''s Life Allow Room for Stillness in Your Child''s Schedule Create a Meaningful Narrative for Your Child Why Expressing Gratitude to Your Child Is a Powerful Parenting Tool 15 Connect to Your Child with Engaged Presence How We Undermine Our Attempts to Connect with Our Children Do You Validate Your Children''s Behavior, or Their Being? Just Be There 16 How to Handle Your Child''s Mistakes Do You Really Know Why They Did What They Did? How You Can Transform Mistakes into Spiritual Gold Celebrate Your Child''s Mistakes 17 The Two Wings of the Eagle A Child Can''t Soar Without Containment The Spiritual Approach to Discipline Don''t Avoid Conflict--Value It How to Discipline in a Manner that Works The Rule about Rules Why Teaching Is More Effective Than Punishment Acting Out Reflects Unmet Emotional Needs Do You Own Your Part in Your Children''s Behavior? Why Delightful Children Turn into Defiant Teens Heavy-handed Tactics Backfire How to Execute the "No" Timing Is Crucial Afterword Understanding Our Shared Unconsciousness We''re All in This Together Becoming a Parent Who Is Present Appendix The Consciousness Compass Questions to Ask Ourselves Some Highlights from the Conscious Parent.