Introduction 1 Part 1: Getting Started with Kink Basics 5 Chapter 1: Introducing Kink! 7 Chapter 2: Defining Kink 13 Chapter 3: Grounding Kink in Consent 27 Chapter 4: Encountering Kinky Worlds 41 Part 2: Building Your Kinky Life 83 Chapter 5: Discovering and Claiming Your Kinks 85 Chapter 6: Making Your Own Kink Meaning 103 Chapter 7: Honing Your Communication Skills 117 Chapter 8: Creating Safe and Sexy Kink Agreements 141 Chapter 9: Developing Great Aftercare Practices 163 Part 3: Managing Common Challenges 173 Chapter 10: Managing Emotional Vulnerability and Risk 175 Chapter 11: Navigating Kink as a Trauma Survivor 191 Chapter 12: Working Out Struggles in Kink Relationships 211 Part 4: Living Your Best, Sustainable Kinky Life 247 Chapter 13: Finding Kink Community and Great Play Spaces 249 Chapter 14: Coming Out Kinky 265 Chapter 15: Adapting Over Your Long Kinky Life 277 Part 5: The Part of Tens 285 Chapter 16: Ten Hallmarks of a Vibrant Kink Sexuality 287 Chapter 17: Ten Things to Help You Build Your Best Kinky Scenes 291 Chapter 18: Ten Kinksters in History 297 Chapter 19: Ten (or so) Contemporary Kink Trailblazers 303 Appendix A: Glossary 309 Appendix B: Resources 323 Index 333.