Introduction How this book works The Lancet move Orientation notes Meet the people Understanding other people' s experience Jenny and Jo - timetable troubles Danny and Anne - eating anxiety Edith and Iona - exhaustion and emotions Raphael and Jo - survival and self-injury Eliza and Sara - fullness of attention Ahmed and Kim - sharing passions Alex and Helen - focus and burnout David and Claire (and Lee) - passion for music Ahkil and Jo - expressing things differently; words, conversations, considerations, metrics Liam and Hat - listening to silence Alex and Claire - use your words Duncan and Tigger - a safe space Jack and Jo - laconic kindness Marking the Midpoint: Denial, creation, categorisation, human? Understanding ourselves Jenny, George and Eddie - living authentically Hannah and Gerard - a mix of understanding Julia and Bilal - dazzling reflections Gerard and Stan - sharing understanding Tom and Tigger and their Togs; Nickie, Mia and Gabriel Tigger and Leo - getting things in order Jo and Julan - multiple transitions Lisa and Oscar - finding sanctuary Lynn and Poppy - an ADHD understanding Conclusion Afterword.